According to an article on Psychology Today,
“Entity Theorists” are folks who attribute success to an innate and unalterable level of ability – a specific entity of talent. “Entity theorists” tend to say things like: "You're gifted." Or: "You're a natural."
Contrarily, “Incremental Theorists” believe that success is achieved through putting in the necessary hard work. “Incremental Theorists” tend to say things like: “You achieved ‘this’ because you worked very hard. I’m so proud of you for putting in that extra discipline, effort, patience and courage – along with your natural abilities.”
According to Dr. Dweck, a big key to a successful life is to embrace being an “Incremental Theorist” – so when failure or disappointments occur, you are ready to put in the necessary discipline, effort, patience and courage to overcome them!
Basically, discipline, effort, patience and courage are hugely important core values for kids to grow up embracing.
I hope Allie accepts failure and learns from them. I hope she realizes that failure is a only a temporary bump to a successful life. As someone way smarter than me once said,
"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts."
- Winston Churchill